I have never forgotten how smart my husband was or the things he was capable of. He was a jack of all trades and rarely asked anyone for help. He was the family hero. I’m sure those were difficult and hard boots to fill, but now that I look back, he never complained of anything that needed done, or about anyone that needed helped. He was always there for anyone in need. He was always telling jokes and was ALWAYS available.
He cut dinner off one night to find a friend lost in the woods, crawled under countless homes to change our stoves or pull out dangerous animals. He protected us in the middle of the night. I will never forget this image of him in the yard or the sound of his feet… in his underwear, with a pistol in hand. The kids and I were laughing at how ridiculous he looked. I will never forget the days of him on black pavement in hundred degree weather changing my tire, soaking in sweat, never complaining even though I knew the sweat was burning his eyes and his back was hurting. There are a million more memories I hold close to my heart. No matter how busy he was helping so many, he always had time for the woods, the water, and his family.
I ran across an article that reminded me of his many characters he played as father, husband, son, and friend. Thank you Todd for reminding me of things I had forgotten, as there are so many to remember. I love your list. Beautiful! Dad.
Christopher Baker is 9 years old and has autism. His mother walked into his school, Mercer County Intermediate School in Harrodsburg, Kentucky on December 14th, to find him sitting with a bag over his head and tied shut. He was asking aloud, “Who is there?”
The school aide had a hard time untying the bag after the mother questioned them in shock. They stated they were punishing him for acting out. Once the bag was removed, he was sweaty and scared. They were not fired on the spot and they stated they have done it in the past and would resort to it again in the future. They should be court ordered to never work around children again. It makes you wonder what they are doing to their own children at home.
Please sign their online petition at http://www.change.org/petitions/end-abuse-of-autistic-students-in-mercer-county-kentucky
Follow along on the journey of a heart transplant recipient. Miracles do exist!
…First, and most importantly is the person I will never be able to thank for saving my life. The donor. Not a day goes by without thinking of and thanking this individual.
Second, my family ……. They were there for me, every step of the way. They literally cried for weeks, they never gave up. Without them, I would be nothing…
A Great Article For Widows, Widowers, Or Anyone Else …What Defines You? Great Advice For Teens In Relationships
…You see, our definitions change. If I’m defined only by being Dad, what does that say to my kids? Parenting is the greatest, most noble and wonderful thing I do. I do it alone because it’s worth it! But it’s not all I do, and I want my kids to know they are the sum-total of what they become, not the singular things they do. If I was only Andrea’s husband, my life would be over, the kids would suffer, and I’d either have died from the wound in my heart that is still bleeding or I’d wish for the end to come. There are days I’m there, but most days I see those four amazing kids and I strive to be better in everything else…
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One of the most difficult jobs as a parent is trusting your children to make the right decisions with today’s peer pressure looming heavily everywhere they turn. They always tell you they will not make the mistake of trying drugs, drinking or committing sexual acts. They either win you over with the angelic innocent act or they become angry because they feel you do not trust them. How many times has your teenage daughter stormed off because you reminded her not to give in to peer pressure when she is with her friends? You can talk until you are blue in the face and feel like you are a broken record playing over and over, while feeling as if you are getting nowhere. Do you lay awake at night worrying, praying that you have taught them right from wrong? Do you feel like pulling your hair out or restricting them until their privileges are gone? Sadly, you can tell them how much you love them and you are only trying to protect them, but it goes in one ear and out the other. Part of it remains in their memory but we have to make sure they are really listening and making the correct choices, on their own. “On their own” is the keyword here.
Do you know that their friends are smoking pot, in both public and private schools, at P.E., in the bathrooms, and even in some classrooms? Both private and public students are buying it for five dollars and taking it home. Some are sharing and convincing friends to try it and some are smoking it alone, once at home. Your children will tell you they have friends who now need more than the high from pot and are doing more serious drugs, such as cocaine, crack, ecstasy and shooting up drugs. Some are already dying at an early age and the parents are oblivious to it. They go to school and function but no one is reaching out to them. Their weight changes, their eating habits and daily habits all change. The other children notice it, but are too afraid to speak up. To add to your pile of worries, when children are under the influence, they are twice as likely to have sex because they are either relaxed or pressured and you are not there to stop them. When your children spend the night off, how much do you really know about their friends, their parents, or their siblings? Most children try for the first time smoking, drinking, using drugs and having sex at a friend’s house more than any other location.
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