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Would You Allow A Teacher To Harm Your Child?

Christopher Baker is 9 years old and has autism. His mother walked into his school, Mercer County Intermediate School in Harrodsburg, Kentucky on December 14th, to find him sitting with a bag over his head and tied shut. He was asking aloud, “Who is there?”

The school aide had a hard time untying the bag after the mother questioned them in shock. They stated they were punishing him for acting out. Once the bag was removed, he was sweaty and scared. They were not fired on the spot and they stated they have done it in the past and would resort to it again in the future. They should be court ordered to never work around children again. It makes you wonder what they are doing to their own children at home.

Please sign their online petition at  http://www.change.org/petitions/end-abuse-of-autistic-students-in-mercer-county-kentucky

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Why Do Bullies Bully?

…It is not easy watching our children sulk or cry after school. It is not easy watching their self-esteem slip. It is not easy watching our child become mean as a result of being bullied. We need to teach our children when they are bullied, it has absolutely nothing to do with them, none whatsoever. This is the first and most important aspect of it all. The children being bullied need to know this to keep their sanity and their self-esteem in check.

The second thing they need to know can help serve as a two-fold and create compassion in your child. Bullies are usually having a hard time with something, whether they realize it or not…

To The Pranksters Who Claimed Jon Bon Jovi Died

Last night, you claimed Jon Bon Jovi died and you made it similar in fashion to Michael Jackson’s death. Why would you cause pain on their families and friends? Have you not lost a loved one or experienced the pain and trauma it brings? Have you experienced the shock or had years of sleepless nights or the nightmares after loosing a parent, spouse, or child?

Next time you consider playing a joke on someone, please put yourself in their shoes first. Ask yourself, who will you hurt. Please spend your time finding someone who needs help and focus on being a light for them. We all have the responsibility to make our world a better place. There are hurting people all around you. If you are the one hurting, you can discover that helping others will ease your pain.

Fortunately, Bon Jovi took it with a grain of salt and laughed it off. This shows his true character. What is your character? How do you contribute to society? Do you help others or do you hurt them? You have a chance to change how you relate to people, every morning when you wake up.

It could be your child running in the door one day, screaming and crying after hearing of your death. Is that how you want your loved ones to feel? What if the rumor is a hoax, how would you handle your child who is crying frantically and not able to be calmed by your presence? How would you feel? Would you want your child to start living with the fear of loosing you? Think about how Jon Bon Jovi’s family now feels. Although he laughed it off, did they?

A Message For All Widows: Need Your Help

Becoming a widow can make you feel as if you are going insane and it can make you feel as if you are the only sane person you know.

The emotions we face can be unbearable, they can make us weak and they can make us strong. It is frustrating to feel a hundred different emotions and then again feel a completely new emotion years later. People think we aren’t healing fast enough, they think we should already be operating again as we once were. This can frustrate us even more. We go to bed with plans of tackling certain things the next day and we wake up feeling great. Then out of nowhere something someone says or does takes us completely off track and the thought of picking up our to-do list seems unbearable. We start feeling heavy and spend our day trying to shake it off. It is bedtime and another day was wasted. We try again. We never stop trying and never stop believing that one day the heaviness will be gone. Our minds are motivated and want desperately to clean the house or start that project we need to finish but our bodies just won’t let us. We function and we accomplish things, just in smaller steps than what we are used to.

Other than the fact of not having our loved one here with us, not being our usual superwoman self is the hardest part to deal with. Some mornings, we can barely drag ourselves out of bed just to get the children off to school. The children can barely get out of bed. We do what must be done and are completely worn out just trying to get dressed but we never give up. We fight everyday to regain our strength, our energy, our memory, our old selves. We constantly wonder if we will grow old like this. We have our good days and we feel like a new person when they suddenly appear. We pray the bad days never come back and they always come back. We wake up wondering why we feel so bad. It is a roller coaster that you just want to stop. You cannot bear the thought of reliving it again. Have you ever wondered how lost love can drain you of so much? Ending a relationship hurts and causes pain, but you can still function. Becoming a widow stops you in your tracks. It cements your feet in time.

The anger, the confusion, the short-term memory loss, the shock, the crying, the questions, the wondering, the forgetfulness, the emptiness, the pain, the aches, the heartache, the sleepless years, the empty stomach, the clenching of the jaw and teeth, the numbness, the depression, anxiety, uncontrolled crying, memories, pictures, their clothes, their toothbrush sitting dry, the not focusing, the racing heartbeat, the longing, the begging, the grasping for anything to do with them. It may all seem like nothing to people who have never lost a husband, wife, or child, but to us, it is our way of life, our every breath we take, our every step. We no longer take the small stuff for granted and the big things seem irrelevant most days.

I would never wish this pain on my worst enemy and I pray for God to spare others the mind-numbing and heart breaking emotions we feel all in one day. It makes me angry that someone would cause this pain on another human being  but yet I pray for my husband’s killer. I forgive but I do not forget. I still want justice and I will always search for it.

I keep running into people who are not hurting a little, I run into people who are broken beyond repair. It is as if God is putting people in my path to help. My friends are now referring to them as my angels. They are people who are lost and I have walked in their shoes, as an adult and as a child. I can relate to them and God is using me to help them. I know when they see us healing, they see it is possible. I have a message to all of you hurting and lost. Find someone who is hurting. Show them how far you have come. We will never be one hundred percent healed. When we go to our death-bed, we will still have sorrows and regrets. Every day that you wake up, you ARE healing. You may not feel it but you are and you have to trust that you are. You will not wake up one day healed. Healing is a journey, it is learning to cope, learning to find ways to comfort yourself and others. This is healing. Healing is knowing that you are even if you do not feel it all the time. We have our good days and our bad days.

I was shocked to find so many people suffering from losing a loved one. Everywhere I turn, I am finding people from all walks of life that are begging for someone to talk to and receive reassurance that they are experiencing normal symptoms. I always recovered from losing a loved one and never knew this pain existed. Sure, I dealt with issues of losing my father and other loved ones but I could still function. It wasn’t until I lost my husband that I learned the seriousness of it. We will never reach all the widows or parents or children throughout the world who are silently suffering. With that being sad, we need to search for them and show them they are not alone. You know yourself, when surrounded by many loved ones, you can feel completely alone. Children who were abandoned and are now orphans feel the pain we feel. Can you imagine a child feeling this pain? They are everywhere, in every city. It even makes you slow down long enough to realize the emotions animals feel. They feel afraid, happiness, loneliness, and I cannot even stomach thinking of the ones who are tortured. You suddenly realize how many of us feel real pain.

Please pay it forward and find others to comfort. Ease their suffering just by showing them they are not alone. When you show them how you are healing, you will also be healing yourself. It puts experience under your belt and it puts your focus on others instead of your pain. It gives you something to look forward to. If you are unsure of where to start, ask God to start putting people in your path to help and then start taking notice. It may be a little boy standing by a coke machine, or the stranger sitting next to you, or someone you have emailed for a while and never knew their story. You will know when to speak. Listen to your gut and follow your instincts. If you ask, He will deliver, you just have to be watching and listening. You will be shocked at how many are silently suffering and can live a better life just because you were in their path. You will be their light in their worst darkness just by listening and sharing your story.

You can send them or enter them (and yourself) on an online prayer request at http://TheLifeAtHome.webs.com for other viewers to pray for. A place to tell your story was just added this week and so many will be lifted from hearing our stories.

May God Bless You on your journey of rediscovering who you are and who you were. Keep their memories alive and talk about them. Honor them and share their life with us. Always hold onto the fact that they love you and are waiting on you on the other side. Until then, please be a light to others who are living with the hundred emotions we feel on a daily basis and do not know how to process it all. I hope to hear back from you and all the good things you are doing to improve your life and the life of others.

One of my favorite quotes:

You never know how strong you are

until strength is all you have left.

-author unknown

Garfield Uses The Toilet

This is a random post and is irrelevant to my site. Just wanted to bring a smile. An abandoned cat that we fell in love with was already toilet trained. My daughter loves to video the animals playing and wrestling and was following Garfield through the house one day. He went into the bathroom and she thought he was just going to try to drink out of the toilet. Her expression was funnier than the cat, she sounded so country! The video is on the top right of this page.

Animals Have Feelings To

John Deere and Coontail Napping Together

Have you ever looked at your animal and wondered what goes through their mind? Some people treat pets as their babies, a part of the family. Others, unfortunately, treat them as kicking and punching bags. There is nothing sadder than seeing an animal or human abused. Read the rest of this entry

Feeling Down, Need A HUGE Inspiration?

Nick Vujicic

No matter what you are going through, you will be okay. Sometimes life seems very unfair to some of us and we may never understand why. We may never have our answers but we have to keep faith. I was recently touched by an individual that made my problems seem so small. I have always said, when our problems seem big, there is always someone, somewhere, worse off. I believe in praying for people who hurt me and I try to do good. I am saved and I realize, I will never be perfect, but sometimes life throws a punch so big, we have a hard time getting back up.

I could not sleep one night and was channel surfing, when I heard a message that glued my eyes to the television. He had me laughing and crying at the same time. He knows all our pains. His name was Nick Vujicic. He is a preacher with no arms or legs, no limbs. He had the biggest smile and was such a beautiful person. My heart ached for him and rejoiced at the same time. He was born without arms and legs and begged God his whole life, for the miracle of arms and legs. He said he finally understood what God meant when He impressed on him, “No Nick, I am not delivering your miracle…YOU… are the miracle!” Read the rest of this entry

Convincing Your Child To Be Honest With You And Confide In You

One of the most difficult jobs as a parent is trusting your children to make the right decisions with today’s peer pressure looming heavily everywhere they turn. They always tell you they will not make the mistake of trying drugs, drinking or committing sexual acts. They either win you over with the angelic innocent act or they become angry because they feel you do not trust them. How many times has your teenage daughter stormed off because you reminded her not to give in to peer pressure when she is with her friends? You can talk until you are blue in the face and feel like you are a broken record playing over and over, while feeling as if you are getting nowhere. Do you lay awake at night worrying, praying that you have taught them right from wrong? Do you feel like pulling your hair out or restricting them until their privileges are gone? Sadly, you can tell them how much you love them and you are only trying to protect them, but it goes in one ear and out the other. Part of it remains in their memory but we have to make sure they are really listening and making the correct choices, on their own. “On their own” is the keyword here.

Do you know that their friends are smoking pot, in both public and private schools, at P.E., in the bathrooms, and even in some classrooms? Both private and public students are buying it for five dollars and taking it home. Some are sharing and convincing friends to try it and some are smoking it alone, once at home. Your children will tell you they have friends who now need more than the high from pot and are doing more serious drugs, such as cocaine, crack, ecstasy and shooting up drugs. Some are already dying at an early age and the parents are oblivious to it. They go to school and function but no one is reaching out to them. Their weight changes, their eating habits and daily habits all change. The other children notice it, but are too afraid to speak up. To add to your pile of worries, when children are under the influence, they are twice as likely to have sex because they are either relaxed or pressured and you are not there to stop them. When your children spend the night off, how much do you really know about their friends, their parents, or their siblings? Most children try for the first time smoking, drinking, using drugs and having sex at a friend’s house more than any other location.

What is a parent to do? Read the rest of this entry

Your Children Need You!!!

Have you considered giving your child up for adoption or to foster care?

Have you given up on your child?

Have you walked away from them when they needed you?

If you have, or are considering giving up on your child,or know someone who has, then, this story is for you.

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Are You Hurting?

Have you been hurt by someone or something that hurt you so deep you feel you will never recover from it? Have you had someone instantly taken or ripped from your life to never see them again? Have you been abused mentally or physically? Have you ever lost all of your possessions and had to start over? Have you lost a child or a parent before you felt it was time? Have you ever been homeless? Have you ever been raped, molested, robbed, or attacked? Have you survived a natural disaster? Have you ever been kidnapped? What is your pain?

My heart aches for you who are hurting or have been hurt in the past and cannot seem to move past it. I have been through so much in my life and I know there are many of you who are suffering right now.  My trials and traumatic experiences are real and I personally know what it feels like to suffer and feel alone. You are not alone! When I look back at everything I have been through, it amazes me that I’m not in a mental institute or living under a bridge. There were times I wanted to give up, but I decided to take it one day at a time and I knew that I was worthy of a good life, a happy life. I am only 38 years old and I am a widow with three children. The path to my here and now has been very long, very excruciating and very confusing. I learned to mask my pain and hide my embarrassment very well. So well, that only my closest friends know “only a part” of what I have been through. I found it useless to reach out for help because family and friends expect you to recover in a certain amount of time, regardless if you could or could not. No one truly knew how to help me because they either haven’t been through it themselves or they were hurting also and did not know how to heal from their own pain. I always thought…how could they help me?

I am pulling it up by the bootstraps and I pray that my experiences will help you rise up from your pain, to start your new, happy life. This is your chance to finally realize, you are able to let go of the pain and when you smile again, to really mean it. This is your chance to help others, who are hurting and lost, to find encouragement and strength. I will be sharing the horrific events of my life with you and welcome your comments for us to discuss and share. Be sure and check back for information. By sharing your pain, others will realize they are not alone. You may choose to remain confidential or you can own the pain and finally release it for good. However you choose to participate is completely up to you. My goal is for you to begin pulling it up by the bootstraps and create the diamond within you. Read the rest of this entry

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